Does bedsharing with a 10-year-old of the opposite sex constitute abuse? Should it be the thought that we first have when we hear of such a situation?
Knowing the steps to try and prevent, identify, and report child abuse is essential for all adults as is knowing how to talk to a child who is reporting abuse to you. This guest post from Lauren Book of Lauren's Kids does just that and needs to be shared widely for all to read.
One would think that with the evidence cited by many countries and health professions against the practice, the issue would be moot. But (yes, there’s a ‘but’), much of the older research cited has flaws and thus leaves the door open for those who support the practice to stake their claim.
What you’ll read herein is not meant to be a condemnation of any parent who utilizes some of these methods, but rather an examination of certain parenting characteristics that are rather new to society (evolutionarily speaking) that have been empirically associated with a heightened risk of child maltreatment.
It's horribly important to talk to your kids in an age appropriate manner, about bad touches and bad secrets, but that's not enough. My parents did that, and did it very well... Most victims don't tell because they are afraid, afraid of the consequences of telling.