It’s Not About You


Story #1 I so wanted a home birth.  To be honest, I never fathomed I’d set foot in a hospital.  My mother had birthed all three of us kids at home, on the third floor of what would be my family home for nearly 30 years, with a midwife.  This was just how birth was done in my mind.  I hate hospitals (always have), I hated the stories I’d heard from too many people about … [Read more...]

Guest Post: One Dad on Being There

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By Kurt W. Kroeck It seems appropriate, somehow, to be writing this just 5 days before my son Thomas turns a year old.  I know that there’s a lot of buzz on the internet about different parenting issues, concerns, and styles. I also know that when my partner Holly and I talked about how we were going to do things, I wasn’t familiar with a lot of the things she planned. When … [Read more...]

Supporting Moms: Tell Me What I Want To Hear?


Lately I’ve been forced to handle many comments all relating to the same theme of, “Shouldn’t we all be supporting each other no matter what we choose?”  It’s a beautiful sentiment that parents can pull out whenever they hear of people dissenting against a particular point of view.  Actually, it’s often shared against a page or group of people who speak out against mainstream … [Read more...]

Testicles, Testosterone, and Paternal Involvement

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By Tracy G. Cassels Sometimes there’s research that sounds so ridiculous you have to cover it.  Especially when you realize that it’s not so completely ridiculous, and in fact, there may even be some evolutionary theory to it.  Enter the research that came out this week – and was picked up by several news stations – linking the size of men’s testicles to the degree of … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Losing the Stigma Around Fostering


Losing the Stigma around Fostering Fostering and the world of children in care can be viewed as a complicated subject. People invent red tape because they are unsure about the stipulations around who can be a foster parent, which means there are less people fostering than there could be, and we don’t need to discuss the positive effects of having homes available to … [Read more...]

Room for Judgment

Source: Terminator 2: Judgment Day

Lately I have heard “Stop judging” far more frequently than I like.  The idea behind it is that judgment is bad; that we judge actions and people when we shouldn’t, especially moms.  But here’s the thing:  Judgment is how we live.  Asking someone not to judge is like asking someone not to breathe.  We judge everything we see all the time.  We are probably unaware of it as most … [Read more...]

The Importance of Partner Support

Source: "Murphy Brown"

Note: This piece was originally posted back in 2011 but I have updated it and edited it to repost now because I feel it's just as important now as it was then but needed a little updating! If you’re old enough to remember the 80s and early 90s, you’ll probably remember the hoopla over single mothers and how awful they were.  It seemed to come to a head with Murphy Brown, a … [Read more...]

Abuse and Parenting

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Child abuse by parents is a tricky topic to discuss for all parents, one we’d like to all avoid if possible, but one that should never be avoided because of its importance.  Luckily, abuse is still something that occurs in the minority of cases, and even families with lots of risk factors for abuse won’t abuse or neglect their child.  Evolutionarily speaking, we’re not supposed … [Read more...]

What You Need To Know About Crying-It-Out


To read this article in Spanish, click here. Lately there’s been a fair amount of talk surrounding Crying-It-Out (CIO).  After a piece was published on one woman’s admittance to doing CIO with her kids, others came forward to talk about how they too did it out of desperation.  A lack of sleep, no social support, and a screaming baby are usually enough to send most moms (or … [Read more...]

The Deal With Daycare


Daycare: a word that tends to strike fear in the heart of most parents.  The idea of passing up your baby, infant, toddler, or child to someone else to take care of stresses almost every parent out to some degree or another.  After all, you wouldn’t walk up to a stranger on the street and hand over your child, would you?  And while daycare is qualitatively different than that … [Read more...]