Judgment and Justice

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Last week I posted on the research that found higher IQ was associated with breastfeeding regardless of socio-economic status, dealing with some of the comments and questions that arose from the media pick-up of this research.  One of the biggest obstacles was the outcry of “stop shaming formula moms”.  I addressed this in my post, but it’s part of a much larger dialogue … [Read more...]

Google Translates EP

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I acknowledge that a lot of what I write is rather heavy to digest.  These often aren't fluff pieces here that you share for fun.  Sometimes I get emails or comments from people telling me they basically couldn't finish the piece for lack of figuring out what the heck was going on.  So I thought I'd have a little fun with what I do and see how truly awkward my articles could … [Read more...]

Sleep Training IS A Feminist Issue (Just Not in the Way You Think)

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To read the piece in German, click here thanks to Nora Imlau! There’s a piece making the rounds claiming that sleep training is a feminist issue.  In a nutshell, the author argues that because women disproportionately handle night time care (and the associated sleeplessness), that we need to support sleep training (specifically extinction methods like cry-it-out and … [Read more...]

Risky Parenting

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There’s a lot of discussion about risk these days, especially in the realm of parenting.  More specifically, there’s a massive backlash against any perceived risk that parents might take with the life of their child.  We can see it in comments about formula feeding, bedsharing, switching a car seat to forward facing at one year, sleep training, daycare, leaving a child … [Read more...]

“I’m an overly-educated stay-at-home mom”

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Last week I was at a party with my daughter for a friend’s daughter.  We were classmates together in graduate school, obtaining our M.A.s in Clinical Psychology together and while I switched over to the Developmental program for my Ph.D., she stayed in Clinical for a couple years before leaving the program when she had her first child. Her choice wasn’t that she truly wanted … [Read more...]

Memes, the Mommy Wars, and Context

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I find the whole Mommy Wars thing to be kind of a joke, to be honest.  I find that most people are reading judgment and shame into things when they simply aren’t there.  For example, if I tell someone I won’t wear a nursing cover, somehow it’s suggestive that they are “bad” for wearing one.  If I write a piece on breastfeeding or co-sleeping or being against the promotion of … [Read more...]

Vinegar, Honey, and the Message

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You catch more flies with honey than vinegar. It makes sense if you’re a fly, but humans?  It’s used often in parenting discussions, with many actively arguing that too many people are turning others off a certain ideal because of the way they present it.  Lactivists are hurting the breastfeeding cause because they're "shaming" mothers who aren't breastfeeding or … [Read more...]

Practising What We Preach

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Since starting Evolutionary Parenting, I have been blessed to meet some truly wonderful people who, like me, are passionate about helping families looking for a path in parenting that is so different from what our mainstream society tells us we ought to do.  I don’t think people realize how hard it is to consistently be faced with the backlash of sharing information or trying … [Read more...]

It’s Not About You

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Story #1 I so wanted a home birth.  To be honest, I never fathomed I’d set foot in a hospital.  My mother had birthed all three of us kids at home, on the third floor of what would be my family home for nearly 30 years, with a midwife.  This was just how birth was done in my mind.  I hate hospitals (always have), I hated the stories I’d heard from too many people about … [Read more...]

Two Years Later

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Two years ago my life was irrevocably altered.  I stepped off a plane in Toronto ready for a week of celebration for my daughter’s second birthday and my mother’s sixty-first.  I stepped into my dad’s house and was taken aside and told my mother was found dead that morning from a stroke.  Nothing has been the same.  My heart keeps beating, I keep going, but for two years I have … [Read more...]