Memes, the Mommy Wars, and Context

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I find the whole Mommy Wars thing to be kind of a joke, to be honest.  I find that most people are reading judgment and shame into things when they simply aren’t there.  For example, if I tell someone I won’t wear a nursing cover, somehow it’s suggestive that they are “bad” for wearing one.  If I write a piece on breastfeeding or co-sleeping or being against the promotion of … [Read more...]

Vinegar, Honey, and the Message

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You catch more flies with honey than vinegar. It makes sense if you’re a fly, but humans?  It’s used often in parenting discussions, with many actively arguing that too many people are turning others off a certain ideal because of the way they present it.  Lactivists are hurting the breastfeeding cause because they're "shaming" mothers who aren't breastfeeding or … [Read more...]

Practising What We Preach

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Since starting Evolutionary Parenting, I have been blessed to meet some truly wonderful people who, like me, are passionate about helping families looking for a path in parenting that is so different from what our mainstream society tells us we ought to do.  I don’t think people realize how hard it is to consistently be faced with the backlash of sharing information or trying … [Read more...]

It’s Not About You

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Story #1 I so wanted a home birth.  To be honest, I never fathomed I’d set foot in a hospital.  My mother had birthed all three of us kids at home, on the third floor of what would be my family home for nearly 30 years, with a midwife.  This was just how birth was done in my mind.  I hate hospitals (always have), I hated the stories I’d heard from too many people about … [Read more...]

Two Years Later

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Two years ago my life was irrevocably altered.  I stepped off a plane in Toronto ready for a week of celebration for my daughter’s second birthday and my mother’s sixty-first.  I stepped into my dad’s house and was taken aside and told my mother was found dead that morning from a stroke.  Nothing has been the same.  My heart keeps beating, I keep going, but for two years I have … [Read more...]

Evolution, Crying, and the Fallacy of a Different Environment

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“Parents used to have to stop their baby crying because if they didn’t, they’d all be eaten by wild animals, but we don’t live in that world anymore so isn’t that a rather outdated way of looking at parenting?” ~ Too many people to count, often in attempts to justify leaving children to cry I have heard the above mentioned time and time and time again.  In our efforts to make … [Read more...]

Would You Work For No Pay?

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When I was first given this video to watch, the preamble was: "Watch to the end to see why millions have taken on the thankless job" so before I talk about it, you should watch it too... I'll admit I thought I was going to watch some epic revelation about our economy and why people are taking anything.  I didn't expect this.  I'll also admit that it did pull on the … [Read more...]

Evolutionary Parenting: Where History and Science Meet Parenting

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Our society – heck, all societies – have their ideas about how to raise children.  I can go to a bookstore here in Vancouver and find hundreds of books on parenting.  From sleep to feeding to schedules to discipline to all-around philosophies based on someone’s observations of the world, you name it, it’s probably there.  The question I have to ask is: What good does it do us? … [Read more...]

My Problems with RIE

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Many people subscribe to the RIE theory of raising children espoused most famously by Magda Gerber, currently popularized by individuals like Janet Lansbury.  Standing for “Resources for Infant Educarers”, RIE is a philosophy that focuses on respect of a child as an independent person that we must observe in order to gain our own awareness of them.   I don’t know enough about … [Read more...]

Does The Thought Count?

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I remember reading somewhere that a doctor said that he never worried about parents who were reading all the books on parenting out there, that so long as they were actively seeking sources, he knew they cared enough that the children would turn out fine.  As much as I want to agree with the sentiment, it’s something I’ve struggled with.  For example, I have met parents who … [Read more...]