Do You Know Your Baby?

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Do you know your baby? For most parents, the question would seem ridiculous.  Of course they know their baby!  What kind of parents wouldn’t know their baby?  They know when they were born, they know the schedule they have put the baby on, they know the baby eats the food they have decided to give baby, and they often know when baby needs a diaper change.  But does this really … [Read more...]

The Future of Evolutionary Parenting

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For those that don’t know, I began EP when my daughter was under a year.  My husband pushed me to do it.  I say it’s because he got sick of being the only one to hear my rants about how far we’ve strayed from what is biologically and historically normal and how the science is being misrepresented in the media, he just says he believed in me.  Perhaps a bit of both. When I … [Read more...]

Judgment and Justice

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Last week I posted on the research that found higher IQ was associated with breastfeeding regardless of socio-economic status, dealing with some of the comments and questions that arose from the media pick-up of this research.  One of the biggest obstacles was the outcry of “stop shaming formula moms”.  I addressed this in my post, but it’s part of a much larger dialogue … [Read more...]

Sleep Training IS A Feminist Issue (Just Not in the Way You Think)

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To read the piece in German, click here thanks to Nora Imlau! There’s a piece making the rounds claiming that sleep training is a feminist issue.  In a nutshell, the author argues that because women disproportionately handle night time care (and the associated sleeplessness), that we need to support sleep training (specifically extinction methods like cry-it-out and … [Read more...]

Risky Parenting

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There’s a lot of discussion about risk these days, especially in the realm of parenting.  More specifically, there’s a massive backlash against any perceived risk that parents might take with the life of their child.  We can see it in comments about formula feeding, bedsharing, switching a car seat to forward facing at one year, sleep training, daycare, leaving a child … [Read more...]

“I’m an overly-educated stay-at-home mom”

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Last week I was at a party with my daughter for a friend’s daughter.  We were classmates together in graduate school, obtaining our M.A.s in Clinical Psychology together and while I switched over to the Developmental program for my Ph.D., she stayed in Clinical for a couple years before leaving the program when she had her first child. Her choice wasn’t that she truly wanted … [Read more...]

Memes, the Mommy Wars, and Context

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I find the whole Mommy Wars thing to be kind of a joke, to be honest.  I find that most people are reading judgment and shame into things when they simply aren’t there.  For example, if I tell someone I won’t wear a nursing cover, somehow it’s suggestive that they are “bad” for wearing one.  If I write a piece on breastfeeding or co-sleeping or being against the promotion of … [Read more...]

Vinegar, Honey, and the Message

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You catch more flies with honey than vinegar. It makes sense if you’re a fly, but humans?  It’s used often in parenting discussions, with many actively arguing that too many people are turning others off a certain ideal because of the way they present it.  Lactivists are hurting the breastfeeding cause because they're "shaming" mothers who aren't breastfeeding or … [Read more...]

It’s Not About You

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Story #1 I so wanted a home birth.  To be honest, I never fathomed I’d set foot in a hospital.  My mother had birthed all three of us kids at home, on the third floor of what would be my family home for nearly 30 years, with a midwife.  This was just how birth was done in my mind.  I hate hospitals (always have), I hated the stories I’d heard from too many people about … [Read more...]

Two Years Later

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Two years ago my life was irrevocably altered.  I stepped off a plane in Toronto ready for a week of celebration for my daughter’s second birthday and my mother’s sixty-first.  I stepped into my dad’s house and was taken aside and told my mother was found dead that morning from a stroke.  Nothing has been the same.  My heart keeps beating, I keep going, but for two years I have … [Read more...]