The Thing About Trauma (And Its Relationship to CIO)

Is crying-it-out traumatic for a child? Yes. With this in mind, what does it mean for our promotion of it? Is it short-term pain for long-term gain or should we possibly think a little (okay, a lot) differently?

Distraction, Redirection, and Responsiveness

Here I want to lay out some critical distinctions between what it means to distract, redirect, or respond to a child, what it looks like, and whether or not each method works, according to research.

Guest Post: Friends and Foes in a Baby’s Mind

At what age does your infant morph from a cute and cuddly bundle to the third person in the room; the onlooker who forces you to defer certain conversational topics to a later time when you and your spouse are alone?

What Children Don’t “Need” Can Still Help Them

Are you often told that your child doesn't "need" things like being held, breastfeeding, or co-sleeping? Do you find the implication to be that we are somehow harming our children? What if we looked at it differently?

Lying to Our Children

There’s a new article that seems to be making the rounds, gathering shares and likes, entitled How to Tell a Great Lie as a Parent. I suppose the short version of this post is, "You Can't", but you can read more for details.

Was It Always So Easy?

For those who struggle to be gentle and help their young children through emotionally trying times, but don't seem to be seeing the results, I just have this to say: It's not easy, but it is completely worth it.

Six Ways to Allow Your Child to Become a Responsible Adult

Too many articles lately focusing on how we aren't harsh enough with our kids and that's why we have problem with today's generation. Here's my opinion on what's wrong with today via six things we should let our kids do if we want them to be responsible adults.

Praise and Parenting

Do you praise? Can you imagine not praising your child? Here's the research on the effects of praise on our children and why we may want to reconsider how we try to build up our kids' self-worth.

The Child and the Angry Thoughts

We have it in our heads that children should not feel angry, and especially not violent. We worry and panic when they show signs or any violence. But are we doing more harm than good?

The Myth of Warmth

The argument is that if you have a warmer relationship at other times, the failure to be responsiveness or to even be hurtful is not a problem. The problem is that science doesn't back that up at all...