The Independent Child

Independence. In many Westernized societies it is the end goal of our parenting efforts. We want our children to be independent. But what does that mean?

The “Life Lessons” Fallacy

Why I go crazy when I hear people say they are engaging in specific parenting practices in order to teach their baby/toddler/child about the real world.

Separation Anxiety Disorder: Not ‘Debunked’ and Very Much Real

Recently I came across a blog piece by Chaley-Ann Scott claiming that Separation Anxiety Disorder (SAD) was debunked. And that is wrong. Here I want to talk about a few of the things that are specific to the blog piece in question, but also some issues that come up around diagnoses more generally.

Big Boys Don’t Cry: What Not To Say To a Crying Child

My experiences led to my husband and I discussing things we’ve heard either while out as parents or as kids and I thought I’d share them here with my own take as to why they are not things I plan on ever saying to my daughter and why I hope you won’t either.

Apology Not Accepted

We should be cognizant of how our actions affect our children. And just because they are sometimes too young or too emotional to tell us exactly how they feel doesn’t mean they don’t feel as awful as my daughter did that day.

Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire

If you're going to call out your child for doing what we do all the time, shouldn't we also call ourselves out?

My Attached Child is Not a Bratty Hooligan: Part 2

A continuation of the discussion about how permissive parenting is NOT attachment parenting. In turn, our attached children will not be sitting in our basement at 30 with no job and no goals.

My Attached Child is Not a Bratty Hooligan: Part 1

I do evolutionary parenting. Apparently that means my daughter will be a horrid brat no one wants to be around. But is that really the case? Am I screwing my daughter for life?

The “Difficult” Baby: Part Two

In this part, we’re going to look at the last piece of pertinent information—viewing the difficult infant as a ‘plastic’ infant—and then finishing with a look at what we can do going forward.

The “Difficult” Baby: Part One

You’ve probably heard it a hundred times. Parents talking about their child and why parenting was so hard: He was just such a difficult baby. It’s supposed to explain the frazzled looks, the endless crying, and every other negative trait we attribute to the baby in question. But does it?