So many parents enter parenthood and feel overwhelmed. Over time, they get their bearings and then they feel prepared to take on the challenge of welcoming a second child into the mix. You’ve done it before, so this time it’ll be easier, right? All too often, it’s actually wrong. Balancing the needs of the youngest with an oldest (who isn’t used to sharing your love or time) can be beyond demanding and many parents struggle with feelings of failure, guilt, and shame. Being overwhelmed by it all makes it harder to keep our cool and parent how we want to and falling short on a regular basis does nothing to help the family dynamic. In this 4-week course we will look at the various struggles families face with raising two to help you understand how you can prepare (if baby #2 is coming) or change things (if baby #2 is here and there’s struggle) to help as you navigate what is probably the hardest switch – that of 1 to 2 children.
As with all my classes, I offer a 30-min one-on-one session when you take this course to help you with any questions or struggles you’re facing, and if you feel you need more, you can add that on as well. The content is emailed to your inbox on Monday and comes in PDF and a link for audio streaming to provide options for both listening or reading. Weekly “homework” is provided, but is entirely optional and is there for your benefit – I will not be looking at it or grading it or anything unless you want me to look it over with you during our one-on-one session.
The following topics will be covered during the course:
Week 1: Welcome to the World of Guilt. This week we focus on the immense guilt that seems to arise from parenting two children. We explore why we have it, what it means for our relationships with our children, and how we can shift our mindsets to provide for our children what they truly need from us while (trying) to keep our sanity.
Week 2: Sibling Bonds. This week is all about that sibling relationship because for many of us, it is the central focus of why we try to make them get along. We want our kids to be friends and so we go to many lengths to try and make this happen. When there’s jealousy, we struggle, but the hope is that you can learn a healthier way to view these relationships and what are the steps we can take to give them the best chance at a good relationship for life.
Week 3: The House of Cards. Sometimes it feels like adding one more small person has resulted in a system or house that could fall to pieces at any given moment. Whether it’s sleep troubles or infighting (amongst anyone) or even just trying to make the house look, well, presentable, parenting two can feel like you’re always on edge and waiting for collapse. However, it doesn’t have to be this way when we set the right expectations and work honestly to see how we can build a more stable foundation.
Week 4: Special Needs. Not everyone faces the challenges of a special needs child, but many families will find that even a higher-needs temperament child can make a huge difference in how they experience parenting two. When we have one child that needs more, the idea of equality can feel impossible. In this final week, we explore the challenges families face with a special or higher needs child and how they can not let this negatively impact their relationship with their other child.