The Expectation of Happiness
Too often we expect our kids to be happy about what we need them to do instead of allowing them to experience their emotions as they need to.
Too often we expect our kids to be happy about what we need them to do instead of allowing them to experience their emotions as they need to.
Often we can forget what self-soothing looks like, instead thinking it only reflects calming behaviours. However, we all respond to anxiety differently and not all self-soothing is actually beneficial.
When we think about being in control, we often think about having children that obey and listen to us no matter what. That would be wrong. Instead it start and ends with our own responses, not our kids.
Once again, a call for World Infant Feeding Week comes during World Breastfeeding Week. Outside of the many flaws in the argument for it, what can it tell us about the experience of breastfeeding grief?
To the man on the beach who smacked his child - this is what I wanted to say to you and all those who feel that is the only option they have.
Sometimes our children's anger can seem irrational or out-of-place given the circumstances and in turn we react defensively and with anger ourselves. What if we could see the anger as really fear-based and respond in kind?
Instead of ignoring your child or giving into a tantrum, what can you do? These are some steps to help you teach your child to solve their problems without hitting emotional overload.
For those who struggle to be gentle and help their young children through emotionally trying times, but don't seem to be seeing the results, I just have this to say: It's not easy, but it is completely worth it.
We have it in our heads that children should not feel angry, and especially not violent. We worry and panic when they show signs or any violence. But are we doing more harm than good?
After having a crappy day myself and shutting myself in the bedroom because I was ready to scream at everyone and throw whatever I could find out the window, I had to write this. So… how many of these can you relate to?