Bedsharing Beyond Infancy: The Question of Independence

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One of the biggest responses when people hear you bedshare in our Western society is that your child will never learn independence.  You will forever be tied to your child, they will refuse to sleep alone, and you’ll spend your life having to care for them.  This is especially true if you bedshare beyond that young infancy period (and of course if you bedshare during infancy, … [Read more...]

What Does It Take For Breastfeeding Success?

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My daughter first latched within 15 or so minutes of birth and she latched great.  My milk came in early and my daughter never lost more than 5% of her weight (despite my having an epidural which is often associated with a larger weight loss because of fluid retention; though perhaps how late I had it speaks to that, I don’t know).  My supply was never a problem, she never had … [Read more...]

Educating the Jasseys – Lesson Two: The “Newborn Sleep Problem”

Source: "The Newborn Sleep Book"

Welcome back!  If you missed Lesson One, you can check it out here.  Today we’re going to take a look at what you have deemed the “newborn sleep problem”, otherwise known as “The Introduction”.  I was personally unaware we had a newborn sleep problem at all.  I thought newborns did what they do—namely wake—and then we feed them, respond to them, and they return to sleep.  For … [Read more...]

Plan for “Record-Setting Bedsharing Deaths”? Same Old Thing (And It Doesn’t Work)

Copyright: Kirill Federspiel

Texas is on pace for a record number of “bedsharing” deaths this year: The record is 174 (in 2011) and this year so far they are already at 172.  Officials have launched a $100,000 campaign to curb these deaths by – you guessed it – telling parents how dangerous it is to bedshare ever.  A spokesperson for the state’s Child Protective Services said, “A lot of people don't … [Read more...]

Does Bedsharing Increase the Risk of Death for Younger Infants?

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A new study out of Pediatrics[1] has the media once again proclaiming that bedsharing is unsafe, particularly in the 0-3 month age range.  The study, which utilized data from the National Centre for Review and Prevention of Child Death Case Reporting System, examined details pertaining to over 8000 deaths in the period of 2004-2012.  Although the sheer number of deaths examined … [Read more...]

A Response to Gina Ford’s “Golden Rules”

Source: The Daily Mail

The following was printed in an article in the Daily Mail when discussing how one UK politician decided to take on Gina Ford, claiming her methods were “absolute nonsense”: Given Ms. Ford hasn’t taken the Daily Mail to task and this fits with what I have read more generally on her methods (albeit in earlier books), so I can only imagine she finds this a good (or at least … [Read more...]

Bedsharing: Risks and Realities

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If you mention “bedsharing” to many nurses or doctors or even other parents, they will often tell you exactly how dangerous it is.  Haven’t you heard that it’s pretty much tantamount to trying to kill your child?  I’ve had people comment on other pages they think parents should be charged for bedsharing.  They really believe it’s that dangerous. With last year’s Carpenter et … [Read more...]

What Children Don’t “Need” Can Still Help Them

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By Tracy Cassels “Your baby is now old enough that s/he doesn’t need to feed during the night.” “Your child doesn’t need to sleep in your room or in your bed.” “Your baby doesn’t need to be held this much.” “Your child doesn’t need to still be breastfeeding.” Sound familiar?  In today’s society parents are often given the unsolicited advice about what their child “doesn’t … [Read more...]

Homebirth: A “Narcissistic” Choice?


By Tracy G. Cassels I came across this interesting discussion on Facebook the other day (be warned, it’s long so make sure you have time to read it all if interested, which I believe many of you will be).  What struck me most about it was the idea that, for some, to birth at home is a “narcissistic” choice.  (I take issue with the term itself as I don’t believe the choice is … [Read more...]