Deserving Love

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My daughter is currently going through the difficult stage of accepting losing in games (which didn’t used to be such a problem).  I’m sure we all know the one because I actually have yet to meet a child that doesn’t experience it to some degree.  The other day she experienced a loss in Candyland coupled with being hungry.  Needless to say, a full-on meltdown ensued.  She went … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Finding What Works for Sleep

Source: New Parent

By Tess C. I knew before my son was born that I wanted to keep him in bed with me. I knew vaguely that I slept with my mother when I was little (honestly, it lasted until my teenage years when I lived at her house). Because of that history, it felt like the comfortable route to take, but I also read about safety guidelines for bed-sharing. My husband was open and positive … [Read more...]

Elimination Diets: Food Sensitivities in the Breastfed Baby

Source: Tracy Cassels

Many a parent has experienced the high frequency crying that comes along in the first few months of a baby’s life.  Sometimes the crying can seem too much, like something is wrong, and many people are simply told it’s “normal” and to just deal with it.  Often it's accompanied by poor sleep (waking every hour or less), rashes (which many assume are normal), and in some cases, … [Read more...]

Distress, Self-Soothing, and Extinction Sleep Training

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Abstract:  Extinction methods of sleep training – namely cry-it-out and controlled crying – are assumed to work via teaching a child to “self-soothe”.  It is under this premise that many parents engage in the practice, believing they are “helping” their child.  Unfortunately extinction sleep training neither teaches self-soothing nor helps a child in the sense of social or … [Read more...]

Stress-Release Crying

Source: Unknown

Babies cry.  It’s really no surprise to anyone who has had a child or been in the vicinity of a child, and yet if you read articles on crying and how parents should react, we find ourselves presented with two very distinct camps.  On one hand, we have those who propose responding to babies’ and children’s cries, under the belief that this is how they communicate and that their … [Read more...]

Evolution, Crying, and the Fallacy of a Different Environment

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“Parents used to have to stop their baby crying because if they didn’t, they’d all be eaten by wild animals, but we don’t live in that world anymore so isn’t that a rather outdated way of looking at parenting?” ~ Too many people to count, often in attempts to justify leaving children to cry I have heard the above mentioned time and time and time again.  In our efforts to make … [Read more...]

Lucky

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One of the things I hate is when others use the term 'lucky' with reference to one’s kids.  It’s something I hear a lot of because I have a 'good' baby, but it frustrates me because I am not just lucky, just as a woman with a baby who is always inconsolable without medical reason isn't just unlucky.  I have a high-needs child who I have been able to respond to using practices … [Read more...]

“Fake” Crying in Infancy

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By Tracy Cassels A new article out of Japan suggests babies between seven months and a year engage in a “fake cry” to obtain attention.  The article[1] examined two babies longitudinally for six months and analyzed 102 crying episodes total while also having the mothers report on each of these crying episodes.  Based on these analyses, the researcher – Dr. Nakayama – felt … [Read more...]

When Your Infant’s Sleep Isn’t Normal

Source: Unknown

In today’s Western society, more often than not parents believe their child should be sleeping in ways that are just not biologically normal.  They expect babies to sleep through the night by 12 weeks, to no longer need to be rocked to sleep or nursed to sleep, and so on.  And of course we all know that there are people out to make money who promote these untruths so they can … [Read more...]

“Is She Okay?”: Or Are We Sabotaging Our Children’s Empathy?

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By Tracy G. Cassels I don’t believe I have ever met an individual who didn’t want their child to grow up to be empathic.  It’s just standard for parents to want their children to care about others’ well-being and put that care into practice.  We spend ample time discussing with other parents how to do this, we read books, we start programs in schools, we model the behaviours … [Read more...]