The Expectation of Happiness
Too often we expect our kids to be happy about what we need them to do instead of allowing them to experience their emotions as they need to.
Too often we expect our kids to be happy about what we need them to do instead of allowing them to experience their emotions as they need to.
When we think about being in control, we often think about having children that obey and listen to us no matter what. That would be wrong. Instead it start and ends with our own responses, not our kids.
"Gentle" parenting or sleep training is making the rounds as an "it" thing, but is all of it actually gentle? Sadly there are too many wolves out there dressed up as sheep and it's up to us to identify the real gentle help from the pretend stuff.
Instead of ignoring your child or giving into a tantrum, what can you do? These are some steps to help you teach your child to solve their problems without hitting emotional overload.
We have it in our heads that children should not feel angry, and especially not violent. We worry and panic when they show signs or any violence. But are we doing more harm than good?
Part 2 of the Yelling posts, this time covering the loss of control over emotions and outcomes that can lead to yelling behaviour.
Those of us that have had to admit to yelling at our kids will typically come up with one of many reasons why we did it. We may not like that we did it, but we did and we have a reason.
We should be cognizant of how our actions affect our children. And just because they are sometimes too young or too emotional to tell us exactly how they feel doesn’t mean they don’t feel as awful as my daughter did that day.
Herein I’d like to take a look at these safety concerns with an eye for what the real risks and potential benefits are to having a VBAC.