Impact vs. Intent in Parenting
When we accidentally harm our children, we often invoke the, "I didn't mean to!" in our defence instead of providing them with the acknowledgement of hurt and support they need.
When we accidentally harm our children, we often invoke the, "I didn't mean to!" in our defence instead of providing them with the acknowledgement of hurt and support they need.
It is common practice in our society to praise our children to try and build their self-esteem. The question is: does it work? The answer is a resounding no.
For those who struggle to be gentle and help their young children through emotionally trying times, but don't seem to be seeing the results, I just have this to say: It's not easy, but it is completely worth it.
Do you praise? Can you imagine not praising your child? Here's the research on the effects of praise on our children and why we may want to reconsider how we try to build up our kids' self-worth.