Creating “Bad” Habits?

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If you are a parent of a young child, you have most likely been forewarned by many people about making sure you don’t “create bad habits” with your child (sometimes people just simply refer to these as “habits”, minus the “bad”, but then imply it’s something you must change, leaving the “bad” as unsaid but clearly present).  Usually these people are talking about one of the … [Read more...]

Evolutionary Parenting: Where History and Science Meet Parenting

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Our society – heck, all societies – have their ideas about how to raise children.  I can go to a bookstore here in Vancouver and find hundreds of books on parenting.  From sleep to feeding to schedules to discipline to all-around philosophies based on someone’s observations of the world, you name it, it’s probably there.  The question I have to ask is: What good does it do us? … [Read more...]

Dear Dr. Christian

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Dear Dr. Christian, I don’t know who you are. I don’t live in the UK and I don’t read Closer, but I have had the misfortune of being exposed to comments you made about breastfeeding in a recent issue.  In five sentences you managed to expose yourself as not only ignorant about the medical research on breastfeeding, but a liar as well as you pulled information out of thin air … [Read more...]

Six Ways to Allow Your Child to Become a Responsible Adult

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Lately there seem to be many parents yelling about how much they hate our current generation of entitled children or young adults who can’t function on their own and don’t take responsibility for their actions.  They seem to argue that it’s parents who are responsive that are a problem, something I’ve heard first hand (because didn’t you know that letting my child breastfeed at … [Read more...]

Review: Parenting Without Borders

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By Tracy G. Cassels Well, apparently the book I wish I could have written has been written.  And it’s this one.  Christine Gross-Loh, author of Diaper Free Baby, has once again returned to the cross-cultural aspects of parenting in Parenting Without Borders.  Only instead of tackling one particular issue, she has managed to really capture cross-culture parenting in developed … [Read more...]

Guest Post: The gentle African way to your baby sleeping through the night

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Many of you know the very viral (and imo, wonderful) piece "Why African Babies Don't Cry: An African Perspective".  Well, here I present a guest article by the same author, the very talented JC Niala, on sleeping from her very unique, personal history as an African-British woman.  I am so thrilled she has decided to share this with us and hope you enjoy it! By JC Niala There … [Read more...]

Playing at the Park

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By Tracy G. Cassels I’ve become very contemplative recently when it comes to my daughter’s play.  I realize I spend far too much time as her playmate, and frankly, I’m 33, I’m hardly a good substitute for another child aged 0-8 (who really should be her playmates).  But more than that I’m aware that I may actually be doing harm to her by being her playmate as often as I am.  I … [Read more...]

Why Blaming Attachment Parenting for Your Failures is Wrong

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Recently I was made aware of a blog post entitled ‘Why We Ditched Attachment Parenting’.  It starts a little something like this… Guess what.  I sleep-trained my infant. I’m sure this will probably shock and offend many attachment parenting advocates, but with all the hype about co-sleeping and baby wearing out there, I think it’s important to share my story about how … [Read more...]

Your Child Will Never…

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In case you didn’t know, I tend to practice parenting in an evolutionary manner whenever I can.  (I don’t get to do it all because I still lack things like alloparenting and lots of multi-age playmates, but as EP isn’t about a checklist, but rather looking back to how humans thrived and understanding why it works to see how it can fit with your life, I’m okay with that.)  … [Read more...]

The Independent Child

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Independence.  In many Westernized societies it is the end goal of our parenting efforts.  We want our children to be independent.  But what does that mean? I often hear parents who have done practices like crying-it-out (CIO) say that their children are more independent for it.  Whether it’s the mistaken belief that their children have learned to self-soothe (see here and … [Read more...]