The Importance of Walking Away
Too often people expect their kids to change their behaviour as they see themselves as right. Yet we then tell kids to walk away when they are older. How can kids reconcile this when they've never seen it modeled?
Too often people expect their kids to change their behaviour as they see themselves as right. Yet we then tell kids to walk away when they are older. How can kids reconcile this when they've never seen it modeled?
Most gentle parents I know don’t use punishment or love withdrawl (thank goodness) and so when they find themselves in a situation like we are in and their kids start acting out more and more, they can start to doubt that they’re doing much of anything.
Too often we expect our kids to be happy about what we need them to do instead of allowing them to experience their emotions as they need to.
Effective discipline can be gentle, but often parents find it difficult because they fail to realize two crucial elements: you can only control yourself and you don't need to make a fuss.
Often we can forget what self-soothing looks like, instead thinking it only reflects calming behaviours. However, we all respond to anxiety differently and not all self-soothing is actually beneficial.
Lots of people still maintain that punishment is necessary is raising children. Here is why it isn't.
Is harsh discipline always bad for kids? If not, how can we reconcile a desire to end such practices with research that may suggest they have a role?
When we think about being in control, we often think about having children that obey and listen to us no matter what. That would be wrong. Instead it start and ends with our own responses, not our kids.
Many of us know that we're supposed to love our kids unconditionally, but we lack the ideas as to how to do this effectively. Looking at good times, bad times, and every day times, this explores how you can achieve unconditional love for your kids.
To the man on the beach who smacked his child - this is what I wanted to say to you and all those who feel that is the only option they have.