When Anger Isn’t Really Anger: The Relationship Between Fear and Anger

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This other weekend my daughter learned to ride a two-wheeler bike (no training wheels).  My husband and I weren’t too sure what to expect as she had been using the push bike and had decent balance, but she just turned five and we remember being older.  However, by and large, the experience was great.  She had it down in thirty minutes so long as my husband started her off.  … [Read more...]

Are We Setting Up Parents to Sleep Train?

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I spend a lot of time thinking and writing about infant sleep.  Though I write about a lot of things, this topic comes up more than any other.  One of the things I have struggled with recently is trying to understand why so many people speak about the need to turn to cry-it-out (CIO) or controlled crying (CC).  It’s as if there are no other options available to them, though … [Read more...]

Slate Gets on the Cry-it-Out Bandwagon

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It was to my utter dismay to be led to yet another article touting the benefits of crying-it-out (CIO) and admonishing those who speak out against it.  However, it was even more distressing to read an article that so blatantly attacked researchers and held up research that has been openly criticized as "bad science" as evidence supporting CIO.  But I’m jumping ahead.  Let me … [Read more...]

4 Steps to Help with Baby’s Transition to a New Caregiver


By Tracy G. Cassels One of the hardest things a parent can do is leave their baby in the hands of another.  Even when that other is a family member.  Passing off your baby for any reason can be difficult, and when that time frame has to be extended (like for work), it can be even harder.  Part of that comes from the fact that it is quite common to hear of parents telling awful … [Read more...]

The Effects of Parental Stress: SRCD Research


By Tracy G. Cassels This second piece covering some of the newest research out there in child development will focus on what I have encountered to date on the effects of parental stress on a variety of outcomes.  We all generally know that too much parental stress can be negative for everyone in the family, but let’s look at some of the specifics on how this … [Read more...]

The “Life Lessons” Fallacy

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One of the things that drives me absolutely bonkers is when people talk about how they decided to do whatever parenting method in order to teach their baby about the real world.  I’m sure you know the ones I’m talking about.  Parents who say that they leave the baby to cry because in the real world people don’t respond to your every request or whim.  Parents who tell their … [Read more...]

Does a new study really support leaving your child to cry?

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Once again I find myself having to take apart research that has managed to make the rounds that is being held up as proposing that crying-it-out is good for babies.  That they need it to learn how to sleep.  That they need to be left alone to learn how to self-settle.  And it’s sickening. Babies need us to be honest about the data we collect and report.  They need … [Read more...]

Co-Sleeping is Bad for Mom? Not So Fast…

Co-Sleeping: Fostering Independence

Recently an article has made the rounds on various news sources stating that co-sleeping has negative effects for mom.  The research is not a peer-reviewed journal, but a conference presentation at the American Public Health Association’s annual meeting, which is legitimate, but means we have nothing to go on except mass media, which can be notoriously wrong.  However, taking … [Read more...]

Three Surprising Things Science Doesn’t Actually Know


Oftentimes you’ll hear people citing scientific articles to back up a parenting decision – and this falls on both sides of almost any parenting practice.  Depending on how the data is presented and interpreted, you can generally find scientific articles out there to support your point of view.  It’s why a critical reading of the literature (and any given study) is so very … [Read more...]

Ask EP: Mother-Infant Responses

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Q:  Any articles you can recommend on maternal nervous system response? When my little guy cries I feel like I can't hear anything else and like my skin is on fire until I get to him. Love to somehow explain this to my partner. -          Christine S. A:  What you’re referring to is the beginning (or later) stages of mother-infant synchrony.  It’s a very common phenomenon in … [Read more...]