Was It Always So Easy?
For those who struggle to be gentle and help their young children through emotionally trying times, but don't seem to be seeing the results, I just have this to say: It's not easy, but it is completely worth it.
For those who struggle to be gentle and help their young children through emotionally trying times, but don't seem to be seeing the results, I just have this to say: It's not easy, but it is completely worth it.
Too many articles lately focusing on how we aren't harsh enough with our kids and that's why we have problem with today's generation. Here's my opinion on what's wrong with today via six things we should let our kids do if we want them to be responsible adults.
Do you praise? Can you imagine not praising your child? Here's the research on the effects of praise on our children and why we may want to reconsider how we try to build up our kids' self-worth.
We have it in our heads that children should not feel angry, and especially not violent. We worry and panic when they show signs or any violence. But are we doing more harm than good?
The argument is that if you have a warmer relationship at other times, the failure to be responsiveness or to even be hurtful is not a problem. The problem is that science doesn't back that up at all...
We do a lot to try and ensure our children are empathic. And yet, there is one thing I see happen with alarming regularity in our young toddlers that sabotages so much of what we are aiming for.
The idea is that children will receive a reward which will reinforce the behaviour you desire. And not surprisingly it works. When there is a reward, children will work towards that goal, sometimes even harder than they might if there were no reward. So what’s the problem? Isn’t this great?
After having a crappy day myself and shutting myself in the bedroom because I was ready to scream at everyone and throw whatever I could find out the window, I had to write this. So… how many of these can you relate to?
Our Muddy Boots wrote a wonderful piece on parental bullying, but it opened some questions for some people that I wanted to address here. So here is my extension of OMB's piece.
Consent doesn't begin and end with sex only. It permeates everything that has to do with their bodies and despite our best intentions, as parents we can make mistakes that undermine their sense of bodily rights.