By Tracy G. Cassels
Disclaimer: I apologize in advance for the dry nature of this post. Unfortunately there are times when information needs to be presented and it’s just not that sexy! But I feel that this is a necessary bit of information to get to lesson three, which I promise will be the Victoria’s Secret of posts.
One of the mantras preached by those of you trying to “save parents’ sleep”‘ is that a child who has all of her needs met is only crying in order to manipulate you. You claim the crying is bad behaviour that needs to be stomped out – you need to show the baby who is in charge and make sure that they realize that by crying, they will not get what they want. If we remember from lesson one, however, crying is typically the only form of communication that young babies have (and almost always the most readily available) and so to ignore it or to try and stomp it out is simply to cut away the child’s only way of telling you what she needs. Yet you tell parents that as long as you’ve made sure that the child’s diaper is dry, they are fed, and they are warm, that there are no other reasons to cry. Needs? Met. This allows parents to let their child cry and to ignore it (or do other rather asinine things like stay in the room looking at them but not touching them). But I have a question that I wish these experts would answer: Have you ever been fed, clothed, and dry and still been sad? Or scared? Or simply felt the need for human contact? If you answered no, you are either a psychopath or lying. The reason we can feel this way is that our needs extend beyond the physiological and arguably, for an infant, the psychological and emotional can be as important as the physiological for survival. How did you come to this very limited view of “needs” for infants? I acknowledge that there is the real fact that we do have physiological needs that must be met before we can consider the psychological and emotional. We need water and food and heat to stay alive. But there’s more, and I can admit that you didn’t do it on your own. Sadly you seem to have taken a few more pages from the behaviourists’ handbook, much to babies’ collective despair…
For many years, the dominant psychological theory was the behaviourist view headlined by John Watson, B.F. Skinner, and Edward Thorndike. Briefly touched upon in lesson one because of behaviourists’ belief in conditioning, behaviourism also held the view that all infants were born with a blank slate. As John Watson himself stated in his famous 12 infants quotation:
Give me a dozen healthy infants, well-formed, and my own specified world to bring them up in and I’ll guarantee to take any one at random and train him to become any type of specialist I might select — doctor, lawyer, artist, merchant-chief and, yes, even beggar-man and thief, regardless of his talents, penchants, tendencies, abilities, vocations, and race of his ancestors.
What does this have to do with needs? The basis of behaviourism is that there is no such thing as introspection; mental states were things that were irrelevant without behaviour, or as Skinner claimed, mental states were rejected outright. Well, the blank slate approach implies that infants’ psychological capabilities are diminished; if they can be fully molded, there isn’t much there to begin with. The failure of the infant to outwardly demonstrate psychological phenomena was taken as proof that they simply did not occur. If there are no psychological states to contend with, and only learning, then the only needs an infant can have are those that pertain to the physiological. (It is worth noting that not all psychologists or even behaviourists believed this, but that this became the prominent view that received much of the attention of the masses. Because of this, and because conditioning does work in the behaviourist sense, it seems to have been the basis of much parenting advice.)
Infant Psychological States
We now know that the idea that infants lack psychological or emotional states, even complex ones, is false. While infants lack the meta-knowledge most adults have about their own psychological states, both common sense and research have demonstrated that infants experience these states regularly and that a parent’s understanding and responsiveness to them has far-reaching effects. In fact, even the behaviourists would have to acknowledge that infants can experience emotions such as fear, as John Watson’s Little Albert Experiment (discussed in Lesson One) conditioned the baby to become fearful of the white rat. So if infants can have emotional states, what role do parents play? Those parents who have an understanding of the reflexive self (the notion that we can be aware of mental events, emotions, etc. and this is distinct from actually experiencing these emotions) and use this understanding in their parenting have children who are more securely attached and who show greater mental awareness in later years than those who do not. That is, treating a child as though he has mental and emotional states will lead to greater attachment and his own awareness of his mental states (this shouldn’t be a big surprise, but for some reason this isn’t a commonly held view).
Further evidence highlighting infants’ psychological and emotional states and the relationship to parent behaviour comes from the Face-to-Face Still-Face paradigm. In this paradigm, parents are face-to-face with their infants, engaging with them, when the parent stops and maintains a still face, expressing no emotion, and then finally parents resume facial interaction. During the still-face component of the paradigm, infants display increases in negative affect including withdrawl, grimaces, grasping at the self, and crying (amongst others). Why the infant changes his or her behaviour is of importance here and there are competing hypotheses. One is that the parent is now violating the infants’ expectations for behaviour and becomes distressed. A second one is that the mother has stopped providing important sensory input that the child needs in order to regulate his own social and affective state. Research supports this second interpretation as simply providing touch during this still-face episode reduces the distress that the infant typically experiences.
I would argue we are forced to accept the notion that not only do infants have psychological states, but that the way in which we interact with our children will affect these states either positively or negatively. Going forward, we should consider what types of psychological states are relevant for needs. Most commonly we refer to an infant’s distress as requiring comfort, and thus most of what I will cover will pertain to this. However, I would be remiss to suggest that that’s all there is. Infants require social stimulation in any emotional state, as the Face-to-Face Still-Face paradigm suggests; these infants are happy while interaction and then work hard to try and get their caregiver to return to this state of social interaction. Interestingly, in this paradigm, even after the resumption of interaction, the infant’s arousal pattern remains mixed – while the positive affect rebounds quickly, the negative affect does not disappear for some time, with an increase in fussiness and crying because of the brief negative event. While this will prove to be more important in a later lesson, what this demonstrates is that the need to reduce negative affect in an infant can take time – it is not an instantaneous response.
What are our Human Needs?
Even during behaviourism’s reign in psychology, a theory of human development was taking place that would have equally far-reaching effects. Abraham Maslow, thinking along the lines of Freud and Erickson, set out to study the developmental stages of human growth psychologically-speaking. Interestingly and relevantly, his focus lay in the study of human needs. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs emphasized the view that as humans we have levels of needs and only once one level is satisfied can we have the impetus to fulfill the next. Generally interpreted in pyramid form, the levels are as follows (starting from the bottom, or most basic, to the top):
b) Safety: personal and financial security, health, illness or accidents
c) Love and Belonging: the primary relationships in one’s life (family, friendship, romantic) – note that in childhood this need may come before safety
d) Esteem: respect from others, accepted and valued
e) Self-Actualization: realizing and fulfilling one’s full potential
The first four are referred to as deficiency needs because they are, in Maslow’s view, necessary. While the first is required to simply survive as an organism, the second through fourth are also necessary and Maslow argued that without them, individuals will feel psychologically at odds (including tension, anxiety, depression). Other researchers have tested this theory and found considerable support, suggesting that our well-being is intricately tied to our ability to fulfill these needs.
While there have been criticisms of Maslow’s hierarchy, no criticism has suggested that these basic needs are simply not needs. For example, there has been criticism about the nature of the hierarchy with some suggesting that no hierarchy is needed to represent these needs, while other suggest the hierarchy is culturally dependent (and thus the third need – love and belonging – would be even more paramount in collectivist cultures). But it would be very difficult to find an individual today who assumes that humans, even infants, have no needs outside of the physical.
I hope that at this stage you can accept that the psychological and emotional needs are real and found worldwide. To assume that only the first level of physiological needs matters when dealing with a newborn ignores the research (and common sense) that demonstrates there is much more to well-being than simply being fed, dry, and not in physical pain.
Importance of Psychological and Emotional Needs
Assuming we are in agreement that physiological needs are not the only ones, the next question to address is what happens when these psychological and emotional needs are not met? Here I outline four areas of research that help demonstrate the very real and serious consequences of ignoring the psychological and emotional needs of young children and infants.
a) Orphaned Children in the Early to Mid-Twentieth Century. Our best understanding of the effects of a emotional and psychological needs not being met comes from studying individuals who grew up in such environments and comparing them to those who had those needs met. This is hard to do because you can’t just force a child to be put in a situation in which you harm them, but sadly there are situations that existed that have allowed this research to be done. For many years, infants placed into institutionalized care were cared for in the most basic of ways – they were held to be fed, they were changed and kept dry, some had mobiles to look at – but they were rarely socially stimulated and certainly never had their comfort needs met. They cried and were left to cry in part because of the belief that only their physical needs needed to be met.
But a strange thing was happening… babies were dying. In the early part of the twentieth century, it was reported that close to 90% of infants in orphanages were dying, and the 10% who weren’t were getting some type of foster care. Children that didn’t die in orphanages were not in the clear, with one longitudinal study examining children who were orphans in the mid-twentieth century showing significantly more psychosocial dysfunction (i.e., mental health problems), stress, and chronic illnesses than matched controls. Notably, as soon as orphanages provided comfort as part of the basic care provided to infants, mortality and morbidity rates dropped dramatically.
b) John Bowlby’s Maternal Care and Mental Health. At the end of World War Two, the World Health Organization became deeply concerned with what became apparent was very negative outcomes for some children in Eastern Europe. Because of Bowlby’s academic and clinical work on problem children and the effects of institutionalized care on development (for which he found mental health problems associated with a lack of psychological and emotional needs being met), he was commissioned to write a report on the mental health of homeless and orphaned children in Eastern Europe.
In this report, it was written that children need a close, warm, intimate, and continuous relationship with their mother or permanent mother substitute and that the lack of this type of relationship can have serious and irreversible mental health consequences. He noted that the social needs are not secondary to physical needs, but are equally primary as evidenced by a child’s influence in attaining social interaction. Importantly, Bowlby was one of the first to argue that the feeding relationship was not the primary way in which the mother affected her child’s well-being, but that her closeness to her child and offering of comfort was more important.
The monograph was highly criticized at the time, as many people argued that either a strong parent-child relationship is not necessary to a child’s well-being or that maternal love is not necessary. The feeding bit, however, was highly criticized at the time as many people felt that only through meeting a physiological need would there be the bond between parent and child or that as long as someone fed the child, it didn’t matter what else happened. Later work, including Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory, would silence many of these critics (though obviously not all), and today there is no doubt that the lack of a parental relationship or the lack of parental love results in mental health deficiencies.
c) A Two-Year Old Goes to Hospital. In 1953, James Robertson produced a short documentary on what happens to a child who has to go to the hospital and therefore suffers through maternal separation. This is a heart-wrenching film that is now shown in almost all introductory developmental psychology courses. The motivation for the film was that, at the time, visiting children at the hospital was very limited, and during his work as a psychoanalyst he observed the children’s behaviour upon separation. While the medical professionals treating the physiological problem saw young children (Robertson focused on under 3’s) protest at first, they also saw that they soon became compliant and quiet (sound familiar experts?). What Robertson observed over years of studying the children from a psychological perspective was three phases of response: Protest, Despair, then Denial/Detachment.
The movie is shot to provide evidence of this trauma and centers on Laura, aged 2, who goes in for a minor operation but will spend 8 days in the hospital. If you can find the film and stand to watch it (for it will make you cry), you will witness a child who is too young to understand her mother’s absence and who cries for her mother regularly, but who is forced to face this very scary, unfamiliar, and at times painful experience on her own. She finally becomes quiet and “settles” as the doctors put it, but once her mother returns, we see that Laura never settled. She remains withdrawn, even from her mother, showing signs of having undergone a massive trauma. There is no follow-up to see how Laura does, but the film is the reason that many children’s hospitals changed their policies. Further examination of Robertson’s claims demonstrated that indeed children were suffering and thus policy changes were a must. It is worth noting that while the maternal separation was great during these periods for these children, it was not absolute, and in many cases the children were expressing the psychological and emotional need for comfort when they were fed, dry, and not in physical pain; they were simply scared.
d) Harry Harlow’s Monkeys. Because of John Bowlby’s work and Robertson’s film and work on the loss of maternal care, Harlow decided to further study what is the crucial element that mothers provide that was leading to these very negative outcomes found by Bowlby and Robertson. In studies that would never pass an ethics review today, Dr. Harlow was motivated to discover the relative weighting of the feeding element of the maternal and the comfort. He was drawn to this because of Bowlby’s monograph and what Robertson’s documentary showed.
To do this, Harlow separated young monkeys from their mother’s at birth and provided them with two surrogate mothers. In the most telling experiment (others were all variations on this and provided the same evidence), one was a wire monkey who provided food for the baby monkey while the other was a cloth mother designed to offer some form of contact comfort. Many people expected the monkeys to spend all of their time with the wire mother who offered food, but the exact opposite happened. While the monkeys went to that mother when they needed feeding, they spent the vast majority of their time with their cloth mother. And when any type of negative or scary event happened, they clung to their cloth mother for protection and comfort. When the monkeys were brought to new surroundings with their cloth mother, they used “her” as a base from which to explore. If either no mother or the wire/food mother was there instead, the monkeys became erratic, upset, and/or violent. They were afraid of their surroundings and had no secure base from which to explore; only the surrogate ‘comfort’ mother provided that psychological foundation. In short, despite having their immediate physiological needs met by the wire monkey, only the mother that provided comfort (however shabbily) provided the necessary psychological comfort that allowed the monkeys to handle new situations.
Taken together, the research areas demonstrate that the failure to provide for infants’ psychological and emotional needs can result in dramatic social deficits, physical problems later in life, and even death. I know most of you out there will comment that most children today whose parents follow the advice in your books are hardly experiencing these extreme circumstances. And you’re right. But by knowing what happens in the extreme cases, we’re able to understand some of the subtler effects that can arise from moderate use of these behaviours. It is important to remember that these effects exist on a sliding scale – it’s not all-or-none – and that regular neglect of some elements of the psychological and emotional will have long-term and far-reaching effects.
To sum it all up… despite behaviourists’ best attempt to have us belief that infants are indeed blank slates with no psychological states, we know that not to be the case. Infants may lack meta-awareness, but they feel and experience the world socially and these states are arguably as important as their physical state. Research has demonstrated that the failure to meet these psychological and emotional needs can lead to severe mental deficiencies, physical illnesses, and even death. As people offering parenting advice, instilling the notion that a baby’s needs are met because they are fed, dry, and warm is simply ludicrous and horribly damaging to these babies. So what can you promote? Well, that’s Lesson Three which will focus on the importance of touch.
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